Wednesday, July 11, 2007
Ms. Game: You’ve Got to Stay Ready
I now have the inspiration to proceed with my Ms. Game series.
If you need a recap of related post check these out:
Ms. Game: Does she live in you?
My Dating Game
The Bird or The Bird Watcher
I heard T.D Jakes once say “God Propels Prepared People”.
As I think about that statement, I can't help but to agree a thousand percent. You see we as woman (and men) expect to have the cream of the crop as it pertains to our ideal mate. Yet, we fail to acknowledge the natural laws of order. We cannot expect to have the best, if we in fact don’t think, behave, or project the best of ME. Since I am a woman, I can only speak from a female’s perspective. So this post is constructive criticism and advice for us ladies. However, a lot of this can be applied to everyone.
I’ll assume anyone looking for that great catch or aspires to be more social; already has her outer appearance in check. If not go back to Ms. Game: does she live in you.
Let’s start with the internal YOU:
What do I have to offer anyone?
What are my attributes?
What are my flaws?
How can this person benefit by knowing me?
What makes me so damn special?
How do others describe me? General consensus.
How can you expect to attract or even better keep a great guy, if you’re not working with anything your damn self? I get a kick out of watching females create environments for themselves to meet successful men, yet they have no prerequisites to qualify themselves for such men.
How can you expect to have a highly ambitious and accomplished man, when you in fact have no goals/purpose or even worst nothing to show for your high expectations. You will only become a liability to a great man, which means you will have a short shelf life.
It’s so easy to say we want a “baller”, but what separates the girls from the woman; are the women who are “ballers” themselves. This term can mean whatever your definition of success may be. But the measuring stick for any woman to adhere to when looking for a “baller” is as followed:
Can you maintain and sustain your ideal lifestyle on your own?
Are you adding value/substance on your end of the deal?
Are you a valuable asset to this team/union?
Are your own credentials impressive? It should be obvious and it doesn’t involve fashion or your whip (car).
Okay, we’ll have intermission now. Stay tuned for Lesson 3.