Not Trying to Brag...

So today while at work I was checking my school email account and noticed an email congratulating me for being a member of the Dean’s Circle at my graduate school. The email also attached a PDF copy of the school magazine I am featured in along with a few other students. I was proud of myself and chose to forward the email to My Guy, mom, and two coworkers I am cool with.

Well about 15 minutes later a mass email when out to my department ccing the CEO of the company sent from our department head with a congratulatory message. I began to cringe when I read it. I asked my co worker why did she send it and she thought our main boss should know the talent he has and to also give a few managers something concrete to hate on. While I am very proud about my accomplishments and where I am going, I am very low profile when it comes to my resume and workplace. I already have to deal with these women insecurities; I don’t feel a need to remind them why they should hate on me.

Its funny I was a little embarrassed by the email and only a few people sent me praises, but at the end of the day I ask why should I be ashamed?

Weekend Loving...

Just ending another great weekend. My Guy and I got a hotel room for the weekend (just downtown Dallas). It’s funny I’ve lived here for almost five years and there’s so much to Dallas I still don’t know, including downtown. We checked in on Friday evening and stayed until Sunday. The overall point was to not only get away while being in town, but to also get to know each other. It may sound strange since its been almost a year since we’ve started dating, but there’s still so much we’ve got to learn about one another. In fact, it will take a lifetime for us to complete that mission and its something we’re committed to accomplishing together.

It’s been a year (wow what a year). During this trip I learned that I love this man more than I could imagine loving someone and I am amazed at the level of love I feel from him. It’s as if things between us are too perfect. There’s no drama (we’ve hit a few speed bumps but nothing serious) and you wonder is love suppose to be this simple? It’s easy to love him. It hurts when I’m away. Even while typing this post, I am a little sad. I hate saying good-bye to him. We talked about moving in together, but it won’t be until next year. It’s strange I have conflicting thoughts about us shacking up. One part of me wants to live together to minimize the surprises. The other part of me wants to do thing “right” and wait until we’re married. Yet the ironic part is we’re guilty of fornication.

At any rate there’s no rush on either of our parts. We’re just expressing our plans for one another. Again, I feel so grateful to have this guy in my life. There are a few things in my life I could do without, but he makes life so much better and I’ve never known a love like this…

A Month And Four Days After I am Hired...

So day three of this week nothing major happened, as far no offensive comments or emails. In fact, I would rather forget the past two days. I guess I should back up and tell you what happened the next day (Tuesday) post the “email”. One other manager (not one of mine) had a male visitor drop by her office and he had his son with him. The little boy happened to be playing right outside her office door when I walked by so I started playing with him. At this point the guy and the manager were heading out of her office after the little boy. So I am standing with the kid and she says to her friend “ this is Serena Williams or is it Venus?” The guy says: Maybe you mean Serena she’s prettier of the two.” At that moment I ignored her damn comment smiled at the child and walked away in amazement.

I was offended for a few reasons: 1. You don’t know me like that to give me a “nickname”. 2. Don’t call me anything other than my name when “introducing” me to people. We had a property managers meeting within 10 minutes of this happening so I had to let this simmer for a while and pretend everything is all good. So here we are the next damn day experiencing the raft of people’s badass judgment when it comes to relating to people who don’t look like you. Again, I am not saying her intent was to be malicious. It’s just a classic case of NOT thinking before you freaking speak.

I went to HR, after 2 consecutive days of this bullshit I had to put this on record. I was fair when I spoke to the HR Director; I said I don’t think they meant real harm. But I do think they are getting a little too comfortable with me and they don’t know me like that. She asked how I wanted to handle the situation and I told her I didn’t want any drama just make note and I am moving on. (that was the end of the day Tuesday).

Today our senior VP called me to his office, the HR lady told him what was going on in his department. He again asked if I was okay and he wanted me to feel comfortable talking to him about anything. But in all honesty, I didn’t want this to blown out of proportion and I am not the ultra sensitive black woman you can’t joke with,lol. But I do need grown people to use your head and not be so thoughtless when it comes to interacting with different people.

What do you do???

So I got this email from my manager who is white. I'll admit she wasn't trying to offend me. I think in her own little retarded way she thought she was "bonding" with me by including me in on this email she sent to a few people in the office. But unfortunately I didn't find the following funny at all:


Little Johnny meets Barack Obama


Barack Obama was visiting a primary school and he visited one of the classes.
They were in the middle of a discussion related to words and their meanings.
The teacher asked the president if he would like to lead the discussion on the word tragedy.'

So our illustrious president asked the class for an example of a 'tragedy.'

One little boy stood up and offered: 'If my best friend, who lives on a farm,
is playing in the field and a tractor runs over him and kills him that would be a tragedy.'
'No,' said Obama, 'that would be an accident.'

A little girl raised her hand: 'If a school bus carrying 50 children drove over a cliff, killing everyone inside, that would be a tragedy.
I'm afraid not,' explained Obama. 'That's what we would call great loss.'

The room went silent. No other children volunteered. Obama searched the room.
'Isn't there someone here who can give me an example of a trage dy?'

Finally at the back of the room, Little Johnny raised his hand. In a quiet voice he said: 'If the plane carrying you and Mrs. Obama was struck by a 'friendly fire' missile and blown to smithereens that would be a tragedy.'

'Fantastic!' exclaimed Obama. 'That's right. And can you tell me why that would be a tragedy?'

'Well,' says the boy, 'It has to be a tragedy, because it certainly wouldn't be a great loss.....and it probably wouldn't be an accident either.'

Operation Gradutation

Anyway, my mother and I had a great time together. I hadn’t seen her since Christmas. In addition to seeing me graduate, this was also an opportunity for her to meet the love of my life. My Guy and a dear friend planned a dinner party for me that took place after the graduation. I made sure all of my dear friends were invited because I really wanted to just spend the evening with the people who mean the most to me since my family is in L.A. I swear there were moments during the evening when it felt like I was celebrating my engagement. This was also a chance for my loved ones to meet and hang out with the love of my life. I wanted my friends to get to know him; I care about their opinions of us. More importantly I wanted my mom to love him. To have My Guy and my mom watch me walk across the stage and show me so much love and support; brings me to tears full of joy.

I have one of the coolest moms on the planet. Everyone enjoyed her just as much as she enjoyed them. One highlight I’ll share: so my mom decides to ask My Guy to dance, and at that point I thought okay she’s being cool. I didn’t recognize the song initially until the first verse begins and the song is “play that funky music”LOL. In case you didn’t know My Guy is white, so it was absolutely hilarious of her to display her humor while bonding with My Guy. The night was just too perfect.

Like most things, they come to an end. My mom left me yesterday afternoon. We went to the spa (my mother’s day gift) and had brunch before I dropped her off at the airport. I hate saying good-bye to her.

Its now time for My Guy to take a trip West bound to meet the rest of the gang…

Another Milestone....

This past weekend was great. I had a girlfriend come out to visit me, whom I haven't seen since graduating from undergrad (about 4 and half years ago). We decided back in January to have a reunion in the spring, and boy does time fly. While she was here it was important to me to have her meet My Guy. But even more special to me was sunday afternoon. My Guy's son just started his flag football season and he mentioned wanting me to attend a game or two. Well this past sunday I went along with my friend. The point of attending the games (in his opinion) was to merge the two worlds consisting of the people he loved the most meaning; me & and his son/mother of his son.

So I met her for the first time. I was a little nervous but nothing really out of the ordinary. The visit turned out great and we had a great time together. We sat out on the grass, watched the game, and had great conversation. I love My Guy and anyone he loves.

FYI...I'll post about my new job. Today is day 2 (yeah).

Hot Damn....

I just got my formal offer over the phone about 10 minutes ago. I decided to start on Monday (4/27) so I can take care of a few items while I have some time off. God is so good. I was starting to get a little anxious, because time was running out on sitting home and burning my savings account along with my unemployment checks. I was afraid I was going to have to take any job at this point. But everything happens for a reasons. My God, so many lessons I've learned from my last two jobs. I understand how to play this game on the corporate plantation. My only objectives are to always be positive and do my best. No more befriending my bosses on a personal level and no more getting caught up in office politics.

I am so grateful to not only land a job in my industry again but now I have so many opportunities in my reach. Oh and let's not forget, I am making more money than my last two jobs :) Yes God is Good!!!