Sunday, July 15, 2007

Ms. Game: The Flirt vs. The Skank


It is important for us ladies to understand the difference between the art of flirting and the portrayal of tricking. Like being sexy, flirting is a sense of being or an attitude. It’s not something that can be purchased nor worn. There’s nothing wrong with a woman who knows how to utilize her sexuality and feminity to attract the opposite sex. However, there is a fine line between coming off as a flirt and appearing to be nothing more than whore.

This particular subject was inspired by a comment made by one of those brilliant VH1Charm School “contestant/actress”. “Pumpkin” made the comment that white women are flirtier than black women. Her definition of flirting is: a woman who kisses a few random men in the same setting, having explicit sexual conversations during initial meetings, sucking alcohol from an ice sculpture (as if sucking a dick) in public, and allowing random men to feel up on her. She also added that for this reason black woman are considered more conservative vs. our white female counterparts.

I hate to burst any woman’s bubble who agrees with this ass backwards definition of being a flirt; but you are best described as a skank if you do any of the abovementioned behaviors. A woman can be sexy and flirty without any physical contact.

The purpose for flirting is to:

Create an irresistible and unique aura about you, that makes him want more.
Provide a preview/glimpse of what you may have to offer.
Display a secure woman who is comfortable in her skin.

Flirting is NOT:
Letting every man sample your goods right off the top.
The most scandalous outfit you can wear.
Connecting with a man initially through the reaction of his dick.
Leaving the impression of being easy or a tease.

I am not going to generalize this subject exclusive to one race. After all, I know hoes from all ethnic backgrounds. I find it amusing how women consider sexy to go hand and hand with being slutty.

I too thought sexy was something you wear (of course I was between the ages of 17- 21). But it’s straight up pathetic to see grown ass women who still believe this to be true. Yet, they wonder why they attract assholes.

Life Equation:

Less Clothing + Easy Access + heavily intoxicated = Slut/Skank
Flirt + confidence+self respect + sexy = Woman


Nic said...

Excellent post. I hope that girl on "Charm School" was just acting though.

j.a.c. said...

Hello!! I love this.

T.C. said...

I ditto what JAC said and say
HELLO! and the people say AMEN Sistah

Anonymous said...

Totally agree with this post.

And Pumpkin really believed what she said.

Single Ma said...

G'on break it down for us!

*noddin wit ya*

Ms. Confessions said...

Glad to see some women agree :)

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