Tuesday, March 10, 2009

I'm In a Relationship: Part IV

Topic: My Guy is My Friend...

I am happy to say I am at a much better place today than yesterday. My Guy and I worked things out but the day was long and mentally draining. Wow, relationships are hard, beautiful, and yet meaningful all at the same time. I was cussed out several times over the phone and had email wars all yesterday, but at the end of the day I had to look deeper into myself and see the error of my ways and how My Guy’s feelings were innocently hurt by yours truly. I really owe a lot to a special person who sent me an incredible and insightful email about the situation.

The funny thing is, I’ve never met this special lady in person but we’ve admired each other’s work for quite some time. I will not put her on blast by saying her name, but I hope you don’t mind me sharing your email. Its because of your email, I realized my “friend” has indeed been my safety net and even though we will never be, he was always there when my relationships went south. I understand my friendship is highly inappropriate and My Guy is my safety net. I am 100 percent certain he has my back and would never hurt me. Thank You!!!

The Email:

I see your point of view but i definitely see his point of view...
i don't think that you wanted to hurt him at all you were just being there for a friend...but the simple fact is you and that friend can't be friends anymore...that's just the reality...you two have always been there for anything...and once you decide to move into a relationship wih someone else and want to build a future with them, that relationship has to take the backseat...it just does...

everything he is saying is valid, everything you are saying makes sense, but like he said he hasn't been with his son's mother for years, you weren't not to long ago with this guy...so it is a difference....

again i definitely don't think you meant anything by it but it hurt him...

one thing i know is that friendships are important but love, REAL LOVE is precious...and the two of you have to let it be...you can be cool, but i don't think you can be friends...

that's my two cents...i KNOW you two will work it out...its just one little test that you both can learn from and grow from TOGETHER!
if you need me call me

3 comments:

Blu Jewel said...

I applaud the email you got and am glad that you and Your Guy were able to work things out. I truly am happy about that. I know how much you love him and wouldn't do anything to intentionally harm him or your relationship.

I'll stick by what I've said in my comments; mostly that love is NOT supposed to hurt and when in doubt refer to The Bible on the subject.

*hugs* lady!

love to live; live to love!

Tha BossMack TopSoil said...

Live and learn babygurl.

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