Sunday, March 01, 2009

I’m In a Relationship: Part III

Topic: Jealousy

Last week I was over My Guy’s house hanging out, lying out on the couch watching TV. While we’re being lazy bums he decides to pick up my phone and look through it. At first I wasn’t really tripping, but then I noticed 10 minutes had passed and he was still looking through my phone. So I asked him for his phone since he’s all in my business. He hands it to me and I started going through his text messages. I noticed the name “Latisha” appear a few times, so I opened up the text message. I started at the bottom of the conversation and worked my way up when I felt a rage of anger and jealousy rush through my body. The gist of the conversation was they were planning to meet up and he was calling her “Baby” and she was teasing him for not seeing her in a while and “acting funny”. So as I read this shit I am wondering how do I bring this shit up?

I gave him back his phone and asked who was “Latisha” (I didn’t have too much tude). He was caught off guard and then said it was an old friend. I asked what kind of relationship they had because based off this text convo it looked suspect. He grabbed his phone a reread the message and then explained their relationship. They’ve been cool for a long time, never hooked up or anything close; they have that kind of relationship where they talk trash to one another (aka innocent flirting). He then acknowledges how the message could be misconstrued and quickly apologized and reassured me there was nothing to worry about. What I noticed at this point in our relationship is how it felt so perfect with no ill feelings. Until jealously showed her pretty face (on my part). This emotion is bound to happen when you are in love with someone and sense something may be infringing upon your “stuff”. He then mentioned a few instances that happened where he felt jealous about me. It was cute to hear that and how we both despite the occasional feelings of jealousy still trust each other 100%.

I trust and believe there’s nothing more to “Latisha”. Call me naïve but I don’t worry about him. In fact, he kept reassuring me the next few days after. But let me add that I do worry about us women. I’ve discovered on two separate occasions while out dancing women have tried to get at My Guy while its more than obvious he didn’t come alone. Its one thing for women to say “I didn’t know he had a girl”. But when you clearly see that man is with someone, don’t be so THIRSTY/desperate that you disrespect what’s going on with that couple. So I am going to need women to do a little better. Its not like My Guy is Mr. Super Model (he’s hot) but I think it’s the fact that he’s unavailable that makes him even more attractive, which is even more pathetic. Get your own Man!!!

4 comments:

PreciousGem-Refinement in Progress said...

Jealousy (the feeling/emotion) is inevitable as you fall deeper for a person, and become more vulnerable to their potential actions. The key is how you handle it and it looks like you've got it down.

Blu Jewel said...

Ditto what Precious said, with one addition...TRUST! 1)Trust yourself and your gut feelings, 2)trust your partner to be honest with you when confronted. If you're not comfortable with his reaction, it boils back to #1.

Love to live; live to love!

Her Side said...

Your reaction was perfectly normal. And I'm glad you love and trust him enough to get past it and keep-it-moving.

On the other hand, my fiance (ex-fiance for now) has over-the top jealous tendencies, which led to this major restructuring of our relationship...

T.C. said...

its plenty of women who will go after your man...they would rather have a piece of man than no man at all...just say...

i totally agree with Precious and Blu...trust yourself and your instincts you GUT inner voice, GOD whatever you want to call it, will NEVER lie to you!

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