Ms. Blu (waving hello) made an excellent point. So excellent it needed its own post for discussion. Please take the time to read the previous post before reading on.
I’ll wait…
Some may feel they don’t want to share their mate, so why settle for such an arrangement? I will be the first to admit I’m selfish and in fact I hate sharing (which is why I am not married nor a parent). But having this same mentality doesn’t guarantee my man will not cheat on me, because damn it-You’re all mine.
I recognize my guy has a need-a variety of pussy. He understands I have a need, tangible compensation. The mere fact that I too can go out and get dick, doesn’t fulfill my voids as it does his (sexually speaking). Giving me quality time and going beyond the call of duty to make ME feel special is what I require. And I do think that can be achieved by allowing my guy to dip every now and then.
Again, I’m not advocating my method is the BEST one. Only time will reveal how this will all play out. It’s a gamble like most things in life.
Raise your hand if your man has never cheated on you? Would you put your paycheck on it?
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There are no guarantees in life about anything. However, how far do you let a man take his fantasies? If you let him have his fun once, will that be enough? What if he ends up wanting "new" once a month, a week, all the way down to everyday? How does one regulate "every now and then?" Do you have to sit through the "process" every single time? Shoot, I'd rather be shoping at Neiman Marcus.
If he dips, you'd better prepare that his occasional swim in someone else's pool might yield something of the cootieliscious variety. STD's, while largely controlled by condoms, have occasion to creep in should a man decide that he is feeling in the mood to be all natural or if there is a break. Yes, I do understand that it also happens even when a man decides to have a fling or more without consent.
Men have fantasies about other women, men, groups, livestock, and minors among other things...the list is pretty endless. It's up to each person to decide what is best for them.
Raising hand.
No my man has never cheated on me and I'd bet my entire income on it.
I can honestly say I have never been cheated on as well. As a matter of fact, whenever I have reached exclusive status with a man, I always give him the deal UPFRONT- if you want to get with someone else, it was nice dating you, and there will be no questions. It's like the Sting song, "If you love somebody, set them free." A man could say to me that I am his #1 chick all day long, but if his attention is divided by lust, at the end of the day, the man is just not that into me at all.
Anon II
Anonymous- You’re right and I agree with your first few sentences. But I have and will set rules. This will not be an open invite to partake in women whenever you deem it necessary. He expressed the terms to be every three months (roughly). Then again he may not ever want to, but the beauty is the direct and open discussions we have between us.
Black- You go girl!
Too bad many women don’t have that confidence. Again, not saying every man will dip. This will be my own personal experiment.
Anonymous II- And yet again another satisfied person in love. That’s awesome as well!
I am not in a relationship so I cannot say in past relationships a boyfriend has or has not cheated. I would hope not but I cannot guarantee it. I am a hopeless romantic and I believe that my next/last man will not cheat and we will be comepletely faithful to each other. I choosing to believe that. But..like you said it is all a gamble.
You are bold and fabulous and deserve the best. So I sincerely hope everything works out in your favor. Keep us posted!
wow! thank you for the shout out and recognition *blush*
it seems that the comments are more open than i anticipated they might be, which means people aren't in denial and aren't passing judgment.
STDs are a large consideration and routine blood work will have to be done because as we all know Herpes and some other nasty cooties can lay dormant. I'm sure however, that you've thought about that being the smart lady you are.
as i said before, i wish you the best and i congratulate you for your willingness to be open and explore other options.
I applaud you for being open...
i have been cheated on and had a really bad experience, so i would hope that my man is being faithful and will continue to be faithful....
i would however, appreciate and respect him much more if he came to me, like your Mr. did...so tha I could make up my own mind...i am selfish and don't like to share, but that's me...and i would never knock anyone else...
STDs are the main concern that I have, if you are open and its done safely and YOU are ok with it...then you go
I don't know if I've ever been cheated on cause I never caught anyone but if my guy presented to me that he needs to get his sexual needs fulfilled elsewhere just for the fuck of it, I'd be annoyed. If I'm around to fuck you all the time, why is that necessary.
I am hot in bed so I'd be totally insulted.
It's different with long distance relationships which is why Nick isn't held to this standard but he would be if he lived here.
I'm with mistress on that one. I'd be insulted to. It can't get no better than what's right in front of you. Is that conceited?
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