Thursday, June 28, 2007
I’ve been thinking about a comment an anonymous person left on my Keeping it Real Post a few days ago. My statement and the comment were as followed:
Since I am such a great catch, than why am I single regardless if I am looking or not? (you can never be too picky).
You're a great catch probably b/c you are single and drama free. Some men can't handle a woman who does not have a myriad of issues because it means they would have no excuse not to commit (i.e. " I can't marry her because she's crazy as hell.")
I am assuming this is a guy because of their profound insight that can only come from a male. Which now leaves wondering why is this my issue or something I have to accept as a reason for being single?
Am I to create a little drama to appear more attractive to a man? Or even worst give him justification for not wanting to commit? Don’t take this as an attack to the commenter; these are general question to any man.
I’ve purposely avoided being a baby mama, looking for a man to take care of me, and cause self-inflicting pain. After all there are so many external factors full of drama/stress. I would think any sane person would value having a person in their life that helps minimize the drama.
I don’t look at my point of view as wishful thinking. I am not asking for a lottery ticket worth 25 million to fall out of the sky and into my lap. I just want a man who can handle a woman who’s on top of her game and compliments him…