After careful observation of my dating/courting patterns and those of my dear friends. I decided to share my new philosophy of what I believe is the proper way of looking for that suitable potential mate. As a business woman and person who’s studied business as it applies to the corporate setting, I have adopted those fundamentals and choose to apply those to any man I am considering for that long term or permanent role in my life.
You may ask how your personal life or even dating can relate to business. As I list my point of views and opinions perhaps you may leave understanding the similarities. I particularly compare dating to business because of the society we live in which is obsessed with money and power. We carefully evaluate all business decisions, deals, and even employees. Yet when it comes to dating or getting in a relationship we aren’t as cautious or strict. Shouldn’t personal relationships have the same criteria as a business partnership?
When looking for a potential business partner there are many things you review before signing any paperwork. And most people off top have an ideal of the type of person they wouldn’t go into business with, but there seems to be no sound screening when dating. Or should I say we tolerate a lot more from a man/woman we’re dating. An ideal business partnership should obviously be knowledgeable in whatever the business is. They should have a solid financial background, be trust worthy, and have good work ethics. So wouldn’t these qualities be similar to a potential partner in life?
If you work for a company or run your own, we know if there is an employee continuously not being productive they will eventually be terminated. So why do we put up with a person slacking or bringing us down when it comes to our mate? During an interview for a potential employee there are certain qualifications you are expecting the candidate to bring to the table in order to be considered for the job. When it comes to dating we seem to overlook certain skills or requirements due to any reasons. I don’t mean to seem heartless or even cruel. But we have to be honest with ourselves and stop wasting valuable time on people that don’t deserve your best. This is all you should be willing to give at all times.
In the business world in order to be successful you must work as a united team. And it’s important for each member on your team to bring something to the table. When it comes to your mate, you are essentially a team in life. It’s important for the other person to be able to make up for whatever the other is lacking. Who wants to keep a loser on their team? So why be in a serious relationship with someone who isn’t adding anything to your life of substance?
For me I feel it’s more important to spend my time with someone that compliments me rather than contradicts. There’s nothing wrong with having requirements for a person who’s applying for the position of being my man. In addition to being intelligent, I am more concern with your work ethic and morals. I bought my first house this year so naturally I would want someone who owns their home or in the process. I consider this to be a top priority because in today’s time people like to put on a great show. I like to use the analogy of a huge Tiffany &Co. box being giving to you and the box is completely empty. What good is that?
You have people who spend ridiculous amounts of money looking the part. They have the high end fashions, drive the luxury car loaded with the latest gadgets, and always want to go shopping. The only problems with these people are you’re pulling up in your nice car to park in your apartment complex. I would rather be romantically involved with a man who drives a Toyota Corolla and lives in his own home, and is financially literate and stable. With more than 70% of Americans living in debt, would it not make sense to choose a partner who can help you grow rather than be a burden? After awhile all the superficial reasons you choose that person will start to lose its novelty and the core of that person will start to show.
Whether you have a hustle or a business you don’t play games when it comes to your revenue or associates, so why short change yourself when it comes to calling someone your girl or man? So the next time you are on a meet and greet (a.k.a. date) with a potential mate don't be afraid to break out into a proper interview and see if they’re about business…