Tuesday, July 03, 2007
The House Guest that Can’t Leave…
I was talking to my co-worker yesterday about her and her man who live together. She was mentioning the fact that she won the battle on how to decorate their place. They’re not married, but they’ve lived together for some time.
I go back and forth with this debate. I strongly feel it’s important to know as much as you can about a person before taking that trip down the aisle. With that being said, yes I want to test-drive/ live in close quarters before I marry you. I don’t believe in going out and buying a house together before we’re married, but I do feel the need to know what its like to be around you 24/7.
To some this may go against your reglious beliefs (mine too). However, I know what type of person I am and I will get tired of your ass very quickly. Perhaps it's because I am the only girl and never had to share my living space. I have a tendency to get irritated by houseguest, especially if they are staying with me longer than 72 hours. Its little things that start to drive me crazy; from the way you eat your food to the annoying sounds you make when you sleep. I can’t help it, but I love and value my space.
This is obviously why marriage is not a good idea for me at the current time. I understand you’re suppose to love a person unconditionally, I have no problems doing so. But right now I am going through my selfish phase. My world consists, revolves, and involves ME right now. I don’t see anything wrong with having this viewpoint. It only becomes an issue when I am still selfish and decided to get married or shack up or worst have a baby.
Besides, what’s the big rush as far as playing house? I would much rather enjoy you and our relationship while we maintain our own living spaces. Let me come visit you for a few days and vice versa, yet still have the luxury of alone time. Playing house is truly for kids. I think it’s important to maintain a healthy and stable independent lifestyle before merging my world with some man.
For those of you who do go out and buy houses together before you’re married, what the fuck are you thinking? The only way this is acceptable in “my world” is if you two are partners in a limited liability company and the house is under your business name. If you’re willing to sign a deed together, why not sign a marriage certificate together?
But what do I know? I’m just a single woman who owns her own living quarters….