Monday, September 11, 2006

The True Joy of Giving Head...

As women (particularly as African American women) we suppress our sexual desires and urges because women shouldn’t enjoy sex openly. And giving head is something that only hookers, hoes, and nasty women do.

Well I recently had the best sexual encounter to date. The incredible part about this experience was I found it more self gratifying to me (internally/emotionally) than the actual fact that I physically came too many times to record. My mission was totally to please him and show my gratification for being such a great guy.

For the first time, I saw myself focusing solely on pleasing this man. It wasn’t about keeping score/track of who did what and making sure all actions were reciprocated. While I had an idea of how the sex would go down before hand and what I wanted to do, all pre-planned thoughts went out of the window.

Have you ever made love to a dick before with your mouth? For the first time, I can raise my hand high. While I am no stranger to giving head, it was normally done based off what I seen in porn or how I was feeling (which was usually when is it my turn). However, this time was an experience I couldn’t even see myself doing in my wildest dreams. It was straight out of a Zane novel, now that I think about it.

I enjoyed this man’s dick for what had to be hours (never been this long before). I took every second of every minute within the hours that passed savoring all aspects of this man’s penis. I did it slow, steady, with much conviction, and fed my appetite that hadn’t been filled in months. Nothing you would ever see in porn. I’ll admit, I have mad feelings for this guy and it helped encourage me to go all out.

For the first time, I came just watching this man enjoy my head game. For the first time, I didn’t have any real hang ups- or inhibition. While he made sure my needs were being met as well. For the first time, it didn’t really matter. For the first time I didn’t expect the man to initiate the oral sex. For the first time, I didn’t care if he ate me out or even penetrated me; for I was just happy giving him some head.

Because I pushed all of my wants and needs aside and focused on him, our sex was unbelievable. It was that kind of sex; you can’t help but think about all of the time. That kind of sex, where you don’t want to sex anyone else because it will taint that last wonderful experience. That kind of sex, that proves good loving is out there. That kind of sex, that if you were a couple, no third party could ever satisfy your needs. That kind of sex, that you damn near think didn’t really happen. That kind of sex, where you don’t wash your bed sheets for a day or two because you can still smell the scent of that man or woman. That kind of sex, you could only have with a person you are truly connected to mentally. That kind of sex, that makes you want to run a front page national ad in all major city newspapers about the good sex. Hell, it was that kind of sex that made me write
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  • 19 comments:

    DP said...

    Free at last, Free at last...


    I have had the same experience...when you are truly pleasing someone...is when you can be most pleased yourself.

    JoJo D. said...

    Girl, I used to be addicted to "bad" sex. The other night, I had it broke down to me; now I know good sex exists. I'm still trying to get the courage to blog about it on my "secret" website. Not the website I write on all the time; but the SECRET website, LOL!...

    Yes, yes. The look in a man's eyes when you are pleasing him just right...

    A woman on the move said...

    @ DP- Yes, I feel sexually free! LOL...

    Your words have never been so true, until now for me…

    @JoJo- I can’t say I was addicted to “bad sex”, just was always more focused on MY needs all of the time. What can I get out of sexing you?

    Black Girl Interrupted said...

    I've had that experience before, where it nothing else matters except fulfilling that special someone's needs and desires. I think its great that you have embraced giving head, because that's something that most women won't admit to doing. I for one am an advocate of giving head. It pleases me just as much as it pleases my man.

    BluJewel said...

    Ditto! Nothing's better than real, unadulterated making love where two people actually make one beautifully erotic union. G'on witcha bad self gurl!!!

    A woman on the move said...

    @ Black Girl- I didn’t really have a problem giving head (at least not the past three years) but I always expected the man to go down on me first.

    If you’re having sex and NOT giving any head, then what the f*** are you doing? Girl, that night I was being all that I could be!!! LOL

    @Blu- It’s all about being in total sync with your partner. No one should be keeping score; otherwise you’re missing the point.

    The bar has truly been raised, can’t go back to bullshit. I demand this kind of sex from now on.

    Freaky Deaky said...

    First time here but I enjoyed the post. The type of sex you're talking about is indeed a wonderful thing.

    Some people still haven't discovered that. Consider yourself lucky and keep on enjoying it.

    beautyinbaltimore said...

    The swinger asked me for head the next time we have sex. Well, I guess I won't be sleeping with him again. My mouth is not going on that thing.
    but girl you do you. Turn his ass out, and make him scream and shout.

    Malinda said...

    Ah, sadly I've been cursed with an oral fixiation.

    G. Mo said...

    Wow! I think I just shed a tear or two. In fact, I've got a box of Kleenex right here. Bless you my sistah... bless you!

    A woman on the move said...

    @ Freaky- Thanks for stopping by!! I’ve got your blog saved.

    Yes, great sex is a wonderful thing indeed…

    @beauty- Hey, it was like sucking a chocolate JELLO pudding pop!
    It was great!!!

    @Malinda- Nothing wrong with that!!!

    @ G-MO- “Mr. Right” has no idea what type of a woman is in store for him. I’m talking total package!

    I’m just preparing/tightening up my game for his arrival...LOL

    Tired of being broke said...

    I second dp Free at last. It is a great feeling, isn't it.

    The Mistress said...

    THIS IS THE BEST POST EVER!

    LOL.

    This is the kind of sex I LOVE! I always feel a need to really give my all during blow jobs.

    Nowadays, I've noticed that once I commit fully to the act of pleasing someone else, I get huge personal satisfaction from it.

    The Pussy Cat Bitch said...

    Amen girl..Amen

    simply STAR said...

    i can't believe i missed the opportunity to post here...sucking dick is great!

    Goliano said...

    Everyday Woman... that was some cool shit, right there.

    "I saw myself focusing solely on pleasing this man. It wasn’t about keeping score/track of who did what and making sure all actions were reciprocated."

    That's how I was when eating out/drinking up my ex. Every now and then I would give in to her wantin' to 69, but, mostly, it was more than satisfying for me to just please her orally.

    She also gave me fantastic, no-holds-barred head... even let me vid her in action a few times -- though I'm not sure if she ever came while doing it. I'll have to send her this link and maybe she'll comment on it.

    It's good to read something positive by a sista of her man, for a change. Though this is the only post of yours I've read so far, I think I'll "keep coming back" like it's AA.

    Take care. And give my guest book some love.

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    Anonymous said...

    Congratulations on your break thru! The first time that i had an O, pleasing my wife orally was euphoric. Magical! I lost myself in pleasing her so much that my face was entirely covered with her wetness, and the sheets between my legs were equally wet. I just could not get enough.

    Anonymous said...

    Girl, I was so moved after reading your post that I couldn't wait to try a session like that too. All I can say is, "WOW". I definitely left him wanting more too. He said it was the best head he ever got. Judging by the way his whole body was trembling......I KNOW he loved it!

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