Tuesday, July 18, 2006
Can we be friends?
It is true with age comes wisdom? I recall when I became of the dating age, I exclusively dated older men. If I was 18 years old, then I wanted someone at least 24 years old. When I turned 21, I preferred guys who were in their late 20’s early 30’s. As I become accustomed to the tender age of 26, I have come to the realization that people mature on their own terms and timing. Just because a person is older doesn’t necessarily mean they are smarter or less likely to play any games.
So at my age I am not particularly looking for men in a certain age bracket. In fact, I don’t have a problem dating someone the same age as me. At what age or point in life does a person decide they have tried all there is and is willing to turn in their player card? I suppose you will get a better indication when you’re involved with someone who completes you and inspires you to retire from the game.
So during this time of active dating, I have discovered a few things about myself. I believe I am looking for a stable companionship with a man at this time, and less of a “boyfriend”. I want the exclusive rights as far as physical, but I am not interested in locking down or feeling obligated to another person. I find myself sometimes wanting to be around a particular man but then I’ll soon feel like my personal space is being crowded. I don’t want to be in a situation where we are seeing each other 24/7. I suppose this is why I don’t want a boyfriend. Once you are in a situation with a title (i.e. girlfriend/boyfriend) things seem to change drastically and fast.
I want the perks of an exclusive relationship (more so physically) but not the responsibility. I don’t mind being supportive of my companion and there for him when needed. But I don’t want to get to a point where my lifestyle has to change because I have to think about how every decision I make will personally affect you. And I am not at a point where I want to merge my world into someone else’s. But I am looking for a few good friends…